by NativeRemedies on September 8th, 2010 at 7:00 am
One of the key factors in determining levels of personal happiness and success stems from healthy self-esteem. With support structures within the family often crumbling due to hectic lifestyles and busy schedules, it can become hard to instill strong personal values in our children. In addition, pressures from the media – which promote ideals of beauty and status symbols –are hard (if not impossible) to live up to and attain.
It would be much easier if the endless drive of competition stressed other qualities such as being well-educated or competitive, but the reality today is that superficial values have taken precedence over other more important issues, and children are exposed to that from the moment they start developing their personalities at a very young age.
Depending on the nature of the child, there are a number of things parents can do to promote healthy self-esteem. Probably the most important factor is teaching children from a young age to value their individuality more than anything else. This will enable them to understand that it is ok, and mostly desirable, to make their own choices and decisions based on their own principles to avoid succumbing to peer pressure.
Young girls are much more susceptible to the pressures of today’s society. With hundreds of ads promoting unattainable beauty ideals, many girls feel pressure to be thin and sexy. Girls who do not learn to manage this pressure are vulnerable to resort to extreme behaviors such as not eating, which can develop into potentially deadly eating disorders such as bulimia and anorexia. Disorders such as self-mutilation stem from insecurity and lack of self-esteem, and can have severe consequences for an individual’s physical and mental well-being.
A parent’s role in supporting a child to develop a healthy self image and high self-esteem cannot be stressed enough. Children should be praised for their accomplishments (even the smallest ones), and encouraged to learn from their errors, instead of making them feel inadequate or like they failed. Little things, like telling them how unique and special they are and praising their talents, can significantly help a child trust their abilities and provide the motivation to work hard to succeed in any task.
Natural remedies can also help your child’s development of self-esteem. For children with learning or mood disorders such as anxiety or depression, feeling different from other children can significantly affect the development of healthy self-esteem. Overweight children are also prone to feel ostracized from their peers. Thankfully, nature provides us with safe and side effect-free remedies that can aid your child (and you) in achieving balance. With the help of natural remedies and support from you, your child can successfully navigate the challenges and joys of growing up and develop in to happy, resilient adults.
Here are some tips for parents to promote self-love in their children:
Help them realize they do have control
Help your child understand that he is in control of his life. Regardless of religious beliefs, children should be helped to understand and develop a healthy sense of being the driver of his or her own life. Helping them understand that each act has a consequence can promote this idea, which is empowering and extremely helpful in developing a sense of purpose.
Instill a sense of belonging and acceptance
This begins primarily in the home. Children who feel valued and appreciated at home are likely to see the world as a friendly place. They are also more likely to participate in competitive sports and extracurricular activities because they can relate to a feeling of “belonging” in almost any group or team activity.
Praise efforts in any endeavor
Encourage your child to try their best in everything they do. Also, when a mistake is made, make your child reflect on what the consequences were and what he could have done differently to avoid them. Mistakes should be a learning experience. Children should be aware that we are human and it is normal to occasionally stumble. What we do after and the lessons we learn are how we see the positive message to be learned.
Encourage your child to participate in sports or extracurricular activities.
Team sports are a great way for children to develop within the frame of a team. Learning to interact and compete among peers gives them valuable tools for the future. If your child is more of a loner type, encourage him or her to develop a hobby. Hobbies give them a reason to explore enjoyed activities, while also giving children the opportunity to develop a passion.
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